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What to wear, what to wear.

Detroit Moms Blog Photoshoot Fashion

In December of 2016, I saw a post on Detroit Moms Blog about an “open casting call’ for new contributors. I thinking, “ahh man, that would be cool!” As I kept scrolling, I made a mental note, that I should apply. A week or so later, that posted showed up again! The deadline was that day, or maybe the next. I decided to risk it, if they said no, they said no. A few weeks later, I shockingly recieved an email that they picked me! (I still think they may have mistaken me for someone else.) Fast forward a year and a half- I am still part of this awesome group, along with this lil ole blog that you are reading now.

Recently, for Detroit Moms Blog, we had a photoshoot to update our old headshots and to profile the newest contributors to join us. Now, I hate having my picture taken, and was not really looking forward to this. We are given a color scheme to work with, which I was excited about upon initially seeing- bright and beautiful colors, especially the blue and greens that I love! The only sticking point was that you could not have any prints or patterns. EKK! Working as a stylist at Evereve, I thought this would be super easy to find an outfit for. But, mid-summer we starting getting in more “fall pieces” not matching the color scheme…and of course the patterns! A lot of pieces I owe and that we had in the shop matched the color scheme but had patterns with excluded them.

As a last resort to find a quality, well made piece that would photograph well, I went back to my old friend Stitch Fix. I use to order fixes monthly, but haven’t been getting since working at Evereve. I signed up for the style pass for $49, that had been offered to me before so I figured I didn’t have much to lose! I scheduled it to arrive a week before the photoshoot, just in case I couldn’t find what I needed.

My style note explained the photoshoot, I created a new Pinterest page with pieces I loved, and included a picture of color scheme on my page. My stylist was Jaime, who left me a very detailed noted with styling information and she referenced the photoshoot. It was the most personalized note I have ever received! (My fix was in styling for a long time…so I know she really spent time on it!)

Let’s check out what pieces I received!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Z-Supply Coopie Knit Pocket Tee 

I love this brand! Z-Supply makes the comfiest tanks and tees. I had a top just liked this pinned. This is not a different fabric than their regular cotton tees, definitely has a dressier feel to it. I ended up not wearing this for the photoshoot, but keeping for work, this is perfect for dressing up or down depending on how you style it. I wore this the other day, layered with a kimono, a Birkenstock style shoe and distressed denim. It looked super cute!

Price: $34

Verdict: Kept

Papermoon Dalena Scallop Detail Blouse

I loved this top, and when I peeked I thought this would be the winner! When I looked this top up on Pinterest I found the sleeveless version with an open back. I had requested sleeves, since I am not feeling super confident about my arms. (Making progress with LIIFT4 though!) The royal blue color is exactly what I was looking for. In the end, I ended up keeping this!

Price: $44

Verdict: Kept

Prosperity Lena Released Hem Super Skinny Jean 

In my note, I mentioned that I would like pieces I could wear with a dark denim or white jeans. My stylist sent the Prosperity Super Skinny Jean. These are a dark wash with no distressing, only the raw hem which you can roll up if you don’t like it. Which was perfect. At first touch, they are beyond soft. They have a comfy yoga pant feel to them. When I got this fix, I was getting ready for work, and all my jeans were in the wash- I tried these on and just kept them on. So comfortable for all day wear.

Price: $78

Verdict: Kept

Skies Are Blue Reginald Crochet Detail Top 

At first look, I was a bit annoyed about at this top. I have a note in my profile that not to send Skies Are Blue. I have NEVER had luck with this brand, it is typically too tight on my chest. BUT when I took this out of the box, my mind completely changed, and I started hoping it would fit. I slipped it on and it fit PERFECTLY. The color is vibrant and the detail on it made it just a bit different. (And it was okay’d for the photoshoot!)

Price: $54

Verdict: Kept

Towne & Reese Oria Stone Drop Earring 

I normally would not request jewelry but I did for this fix. I was hoping for a great statement necklace or earrings to pop in the pictures. My stylist note said to pair these with the Skies Are Blue or Papermoon top. The best part about these earning is that they are lightweight! I also the love the color of the stone.

Price: $28

Verdict: Kept 

So in the end I kept all five pieces. With the kept five discount and the $49 credit for the styling pass- I got these for all under $140! Which    is amazing. The best part, is these are all pieces that I will wear again.

*If you are curious about Stitch Fix, use my referral link! We will both get a $25 credit when you schedule a fix. Click here to complete your style profile. 

On the day of the actual photoshoot I went with the denim, Skies Are Blue top, earrings and a simple Giving Keys necklace. I should mention that it was a ridiculously hot and windy. My makeup MELTED off.

What do you think? Here are a couple of my favorites from the day.

Emma, of Emma Burcusel Photography, did an amazing job with our photos!

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Maybe it is because it was just my birthday. Maybe it is because one of my baby cousins got engaged. (Along with my sister, and my other cousin expecting his first baby…) Maybe is because I am always single. Maybe it is because dating apps SUCK and boys (not calling them anything other than boys) seem to think they can say whatever they want to you. From telling me how to spend my time (evidently working two jobs as a single parent is frowned upon), to telling me “if you act right you can do wxyz”. I’m sorry, what?

I have all these things I want. Bills paid. Relationship. Get out of debt. (SO MUCH DEBT!) Be a good mom. Take my son on vacations. TIME.

I am torn. I need to work and side hustle like a crazy person to be able to buy life essentials, you know like food and clothes for my kid. I need to work to attempt to pay off this ridiculous credit card debt. I need to work to make the never ending payments on my students loans. Yet, at the same time, I feel the need to change otherwise how I am I going to get what I want?

It is the the ultimate catch-22. I cannot literally move to where I want to be because I need money. I need money to pay off debt. To get money, I have to HUSTLE and work more than one job. Which causes the mom-guilt and prevents me from developing friendships and relationships.

How do you move forward when you are constantly so stuck in this cycle? Stuck in the cause and effect. How do you create that balance and make it happen? I am so bored and sick of waiting.

What to wear, what to wear

What to wear, what to wear. Detroit Moms Blog Photoshoot Fashion In December of 2016, I saw a post on Detroit Moms Blog about an "open casting call' for new contributors. I thinking, "ahh man, that would be cool!" As I kept scrolling, I made a mental note, that I...

read more
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The thing I don’t get asked.

The thing I don’t get asked

A few years ago at Christmas time,  my mom and I were out shopping, at Kohls to be exact. In the back near the holiday ornaments, we ran into an old family friend. My mom and her exchanged pleasantries, with my mom asking how her kids were doing. Her son was recently married with a new baby boy. Her daughter, just slightly older than me, was engaged and recently found a job in her field.

 

Politely, the conversation turned to my brothers and sisters, who are always doing amazing things. Then the family friend turned to me. First asking about my son, whom she had taken care of in her in Home daycare. Then, she asked me something I’ve never, ever, been asked before. She said, “so, are you seeing anyone?”

 

Because I’ve never been asked this question, I got all splotchy, turned seven shades of red and stammered before responding. I honestly, don’t even remember my response. I am sure it was no, and I know I quickly changed the subject off of me.

 

Now, let’s go back to that question-  “so, are you seeing anyone?” Basically the most common question asked by family members, family friends, etc- especially once you are over a certain age. I’m sure you’re thinking, she’s lying or exaggerating when she says she had never been asked that before. But, alas, I am not. I haven’t been asked it since- by anyone.

 

My family doesn’t ask. Coworkers never ask. Acquaintances don’t ask. My mom and grandma don’t  badge me to “meet a nice boy”. No one asks.

 

My siblings are all in relationships. Most of my cousins are in relationships. Some are married.

 

It is as if everyone in my life has given up hope- just like me. No one attempts to set me up or encourages me to try to find someone.

 

The thing is…I have tried. I have used most dating apps and websites. I have found those are the biggest killers of confidence. You attempt to match and match. Sendings likes, flirts and messages with no response. Or if they do respond it is over after the traditional “hey”.

 

So…really what is the point in trying anymore. Honestly. So, as a consolation prize, I keep myself buuuuussssy…partly out of necessity, like juggling multiple jobs, but mostly to stay distracted. It is easier to fake it and say “I don’t have time to date”, instead of saying, “I can’t get a date to save my life.” (Expect, now everyone knows…)

 

Maybe in one of my stay bust activites someone will magically appear, like a mystical unicorn and sweep me off my feet. #adesperategirlcandream #butletsbehonest

 

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Revamped

A little revamping and updating happened over here.

Not a major facelift…just a lil botox…

What’s new:

  • The layout, design, color scheme.
  • Old post that I didn’t LOVE were deleted. Whoops. Only about 5 of the OGs remain.

One think I quickly realized, is that this is a process. The biggest changes will be seen over time.  There will still be lots of the same, but more- especially when it comes to content. Be ready for more about attempting to keep up with being a single mom and juggling all the things, more about fashion, and more about fitness/wellness.  Take a look around and let me know what you think in comments below.

What to wear, what to wear

What to wear, what to wear. Detroit Moms Blog Photoshoot Fashion In December of 2016, I saw a post on Detroit Moms Blog about an "open casting call' for new contributors. I thinking, "ahh man, that would be cool!" As I kept scrolling, I made a mental note, that I...

read more
Stuck in the In-between

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read more
The thing I don’t get asked.

The thing I don't get asked A few years ago at Christmas time,  my mom and I were out shopping, at Kohls to be exact. In the back near the holiday ornaments, we ran into an old family friend. My mom and her exchanged pleasantries, with my mom asking how...

read more

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Just another Sunday….

Well…actually it’s not. Today is Father’s Day. I have mixed feelings about Father’s Day. It is one of those days, where I wonder if he remembers us. I know through the wonders of the interwebs, and a quick Facebook stalk that he does, in fact, have other kids. Ones that he (in a Facebook world) are actually around. Around enough to put them as his profile picture. (This sounds dumb, I know.)

I  distinctly remember getting a (MySpace) message from the other girl- he doesn’t love you, he doesn’t care about you or the baby, find someone who will. I am sure it took a lot of “guts” to say. I am sure she was hurting.  (Find someone who will…that repeats in my mind often.)

Here’s the think though she knows the baby, my son exist. She knows he has nothing to do with him. No visits, so money, nothing. They are both seemingly ok with that fact.

So, again, it is Father’s Day. This day makes me feel horrible. I feel horrible for my son. He has his grandpa, but is that enough? Is that the same? I don’t know. I don’t know that I do enough to be both parents.

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